A day to remember

Today was a good day.

Got up by 7.00 am,
 - got ready, 
 - Malthi arrived by 8.20 for cleaning
 - got my clothes from the ironing man
 - paid a visit to Hanuman temple (after a long gap).
Started out to work before 9.00
 - visited Kulraj Singh in Amphalla
 - the 3G devices were working
 - visited Shaffkhet in CMO's Office
 - his 3G dongle was giving error.
 - spoke to NJ to send 3G dongles with JM.
 - visited SDC and met Tariq to discuss formalities of entry etc.
Visited psychiatrist
 - between visit to KS and SH, I dropped in to see a psychiatrist (KS).
 - spoke to him abt my relationship problems (grand old man)
 - he gave me the obvious options, but it was nice talking to him.
 - finally, coming to terms with the separation?
Visited KSG
 - with a bag of apples and pears
 - had lunch with him & his wife
 - he gently probed abt the possibility of office taking his house on rent.
Cinema
 - walked down to Raghunath bazar
 - found the ticket counter open for the next show at Hari theater
 - saw a horrible movie, Super model, but quite enjoyed it.
Visit to book shop on Residency road
 - wanted some reading material
 - bought "A Casual Vacancy" and "Islamic culture in Kashmir" by GMD Sufi
 - the shop has a lot of books on Islam and history of Kashmir
Return home
 - walked down to Dogra chowk
 - on the way bought vests and vegetables
 - took a bus to CH
Home
 - kept rice for cooking
 - had 90ml before dinner
 - dinner: pachai puli rasam + rice + curd
Conversations: people I talked to today
 - NJ, Appa, Amma, JM, OC, Siddhu, Sambu, Ilango, Sangi, Chitra, IB, IS plus some
Now:
 - time is 9:54pm
 - time to call it a day.
DAY!

Co dependent?

Been wanting to talk to SO, but am refraining from calling her, as I'd said I would, until she's clear about what she feels about our relationship. Feeling exasperated that she isn't calling - am I dependent (on her)? I'd wanted to discuss about G's altercation with a local dada - just exchange small talk...

JB had said something about co-dependency relationship. Am I in a co-dependency relationship? Confused.

Just checked out again what codependency means - one of the persons in the codependency relationship is necessarily someone who has excessive needs, neither SO nor I qualify for that.

Blogging

Blogging - (one of) the best things that has happened to me.
Wouldn't it be fun to meet blog friends in real life? - See post by the Hip Hop Grandmom.

On procrastination

Even the most disorganized person would agree that there is a lot of merit in organizing oneself. I am myself a very unorganized person (Hey! what is the difference between unorganized and disorganized?) and have felt that I could be more productive (efficient, if not productive) if I were more organized. While this was just a feeling I really did not have any articulated proof, which of course set me thinking.

Does planning / being organized help one to be more efficient?
If it does, how?
Why am I not more organized?

Intuitively it is obvious that planning would help one to be more efficient, so rather than waste my effort in conducting an experiment to prove it, I took that as the basic premise. Now the second question - how does planning help?

Of course, we have enough real life examples to substantiate this; lets take a simple case:

If I want to write a letter, if the postcard/envelope/stationary were readily available at a specific place then the task of writing a letter becomes that much easier than having to get together all the required stuff before actually starting the task. So an unorganized person has the additional preparatory task of getting the environment right before even commencing the work!
Now comes the actual task of writing - one needs to have the contents of the letter well organized in one's mind before being able to put it down on paper, which means that there would be atleast a couple of rough drafts before we get to express ourselves correctly. One can also settle for an overly over-written letter with scratches and scrawls. Of course in today's world with the computer at hand this task has become much easier and hence we have more people corresponding through emails, blogs and a variety of other formats.

Just a simple task of writing a letter shows that being organized both physically and mentally is required to achieve the objective. Just imagine the perils to which a letter written by an unorganized person is subject to! It is more likely to die a premature death than reach the intended person. So the next time round when you run into the intended receiver, imagine having to sheepishly say, "Oh, I did so much want to write to you, but I couldn't find my pen". The point here is that being unorganized also leads to procrastination.

Now why would an intelligent person like I be unorganized? Why can't I be more organized? That is a good question.

Hypnagogia

I was in a hypnagogicor hypnopompic state today morning (4.30 am). Had clarity of thought with obvious solutions to problems - I was able to view everything with remarkable clarity.

Emotionally I feel stable and my mood is positive. Is this positive phase of an oscillating rhythm?

SO called in the morning to inquire about my cold - she IS trying.

Things that bother me ...

There are certain things which bother me wrt SO. Probably in the normal course of things these things wouldn't bother me as much, but given the fragile nature of our relationship, it does.

SO has installed (some time ago) a compressor pump in the borewell in her farm. She's calling her sister to operate (inaugurate) the pump the first time. There's nothing wrong with any of this, but it bothers me that I was given this update only as an aside. It makes me feel left out. Sharing of events etc has become nil. :|